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Be Grateful. Stop Complaining! Be Inspiring!

For all the people who love to multitask – it’s an illusion. Fortunately for humans, we can only do one thing at a time, even though we mistakenly believe we can competently do multiple tasks at once. For example, try dancing and typing an email at the same time. Or try complaining to, and inspiring someone, at the same time – impossible, isn’t it?

When we complain, we are not inspiring for others, or even ourselves. Complaining is usually negative as well as depressing for others. So, it has an all-round negative impact on ourselves and those with whom we interact.

Recently, I heard someone from San Diego complaining about the rains in California.  For several years now, Californians have been complaining about the lack of rain.  We never seem to be able to simply be grateful and stop complaining, do we? Our favorite pastimes are complaining about the weather, politics, economics and the fortunes of sports teams. But when you complain (some would call it whining) you can be experienced by others as uninspiring.

None of us deliberately seeks to create negative relationships, but we do so unknowingly all the time.

Try “complaint fasting” for the rest of this months and see how it affects you, and others.  You may find this is such a wonderful tonic in your life that you will stop complaining from now on!  Others will love you for it!

Be Grateful. Stop Complaining! Be Inspiring!

Be Grateful. Stop Complaining! Be Inspiring!

For all the people who love to multitask - it's an illusion. Fortunately for humans, we can only do one thing at a time, even though we mistakenly believe we can competently do multiple tasks at once. For example, try dancing and typing an email at the same time. Or...

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Remote Work is Here to Stay – Get over it!

Remote Work is Here to Stay – Get over it!

Some corporate leaders are living in a parallel universe. Facebook, among many companies, has mandated that employees return to work for a minimum of three days a week. Some leaders seem to believe that if you can't see your employees, then they are probably goofing...

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This Genie Will Not Go Back in the Bottle!

This Genie Will Not Go Back in the Bottle!

The first use of the word “work” dates to the 13th century, meaning "physical effort, exertion". But it was not until the 17th century that the phrase “going to work” was used. Shakespeare was one of the first to use this phrase, and we have been “going to work” ever...

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New Masterclass

New Masterclass

On January 19, 2023, I will be conducting my new Masterclass based on the unpublished manuscript of my next book, Reawakening the Human Spirit which will be available early in 2023. It represents just about everything I have learned, discovered and written about over...

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Stop This Unfairness

Stop This Unfairness

It is a strange fact that in Canada, the intellectual properties of writers like myself are used without permission, or compensation, by universities, schools and NGOs and government institutions. Universities took their case to the Supreme Court and won! Google has...

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Forgiveness The Gift We Give Ourselves

Forgiveness The Gift We Give Ourselves

I'm going to go out on a limb in this blog… the Internet these days seems to be a place where if you share your authentic opinions you're likely to attract vitriol. I hope this is not the case here, and I would love to know if you agree with these thoughts. The world...

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Trust or Control?

Trust or Control?

A recent New York Times  article titled, “The Rise of the Worker Productivity Score” describes how companies are monitoring their employees—counting keystrokes, measuring time taken for bathroom breaks and more. It describes radiologists who see scoreboards charting...

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Reawakening the Human Spirit

Reawakening the Human Spirit

Over the last three years, I have noticed a precipitous decline in the level of personal inspiration among those with whom I work or socialize. Many people have lost their inspiration altogether, replacing it with an unhealthy sense of helplessness. Pandemics,...

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Old Wine in New Bottles

Old Wine in New Bottles

As I scan the New York Times list of non-fiction bestsellers, I lament that I cannot find anything new, nothing that has not already been written or said before, nothing that causes me to throw open the window and shout, “Aha!” to the world. There are some exceptions...

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Hyperbole and the Language of War

Hyperbole and the Language of War

“My back is killing me!” Why do we use the language of war to make a point? I have been studying this for years and I think I have discovered a (possibly Freudian) explanation. There is a word for a statement like this. It is called hyperbole, which the dictionary...

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Are we Preparing our Youth for Life?

Are we Preparing our Youth for Life?

The Program for International Student Assessment tests 15-year-old students around the world and is administered by the Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development. In 2018, when the test was last administered, the U.S....

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