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Be Grateful. Stop Complaining! Be Inspiring!
For all the people who love to multitask – it’s an illusion. Fortunately for humans, we can only do one thing at a time, even though we mistakenly believe we can competently do multiple tasks at once. For example, try dancing and typing an email at the same time. Or try complaining to, and inspiring someone, at the same time – impossible, isn’t it?
When we complain, we are not inspiring for others, or even ourselves. Complaining is usually negative as well as depressing for others. So, it has an all-round negative impact on ourselves and those with whom we interact.
Recently, I heard someone from San Diego complaining about the rains in California. For several years now, Californians have been complaining about the lack of rain. We never seem to be able to simply be grateful and stop complaining, do we? Our favorite pastimes are complaining about the weather, politics, economics and the fortunes of sports teams. But when you complain (some would call it whining) you can be experienced by others as uninspiring.
None of us deliberately seeks to create negative relationships, but we do so unknowingly all the time.
Try “complaint fasting” for the rest of this months and see how it affects you, and others. You may find this is such a wonderful tonic in your life that you will stop complaining from now on! Others will love you for it!
Show the Love for Ukraine
Airbnb CEO Brian Chesky, has removed all guest and host fees for bookings in Ukraine. The idea behind his move is to open a channel for direct support to Ukrainians. If you book an Airbnb reservation, (of course you won’t need to actually go!) all of the money will go...
A Clinic on Inspiration and Leadership
This is not a blog about politics. It is a blog about leadership and inspiration (which, of course, is the same thing). Like you, I have been watching the daily unfolding of the horrors of the Russian invasion of Ukraine. I have not been shocked by Vladimir Putin—I...
Creating a More Inspired World
As many of you know, we launched a new movement, "To Create a More Inspired World", last year. The reason for this initiative is well captured in this essay by David Brooks in the New York Times. Our aim is to reverse the dystopian perspective that is understandably...
Zoom Fatigue
A recent study from the University of Arizona suggests that “Zoom fatigue” is not caused by spending endless hours on zoom calls, but from the stress caused by having the camera always turned on, which forces us to stare endlessly at ourselves. In this study, half the...
The Most Important Question to Ask Ourselves
As we learn to navigate a hybrid world of work (for many, but not all), we have become preoccupied with issues such as technology, burnout, engagement, collaboration, recruitment, the pandemic, mental health, stress, how to motivate employees and many other...
How Will You Handle Covid Vaccination Mandates?
Science tells us that any of us can be carriers and spreaders of Covid, regardless of whether we are vaccinated or not. Vaccination is immensely successful in preventing people from dying or being hospitalized - but vaccinated and unvaccinated people are equally...
The Great Reset
Every day we are hearing about: A desperate shortage of qualified employees Employees' reluctance to return to physical premises More than 40% of employees thinking of quitting A general disillusionment with, and distrust of, big government and Corporations. In the...
Announcing A New On-line Course on Higher Ground Leadership®
For the past year, HR.com and The Secretan Center Inc. have been collaborating to create the first coach-led, online learning experience for Higher Ground Leadership®. The beta version is launching on June 29, 2021. It will be led by two of our most...
Can Love Ever be as Entertaining as Violence?
40 years ago, I made two decisions that have shaped my life: I refused to go to any movies where gratuitous violence (or violence of any form) was part of the script, and, I gave up my TV and have not owned one since. The second choice was made to support the first...
Ask me a Question!
For many people, the world feels less inspiring these days, so we decided to start a new movement to change that. We are building a community. As part of this ambitious initiative, I posted a comment on social media in which I said: "Ask me a question about...
The Amazon Monopoly
Warning: This is a rant! There are millions of books on Amazon.com and hundreds of thousands of authors who earn their living—theoretically—from this market-dominant company. The mechanics of how this works for an author may not be obvious to the general public. ...
A Very Special Offer
One of the regular participants in our weekly Inspiration in the Cloud Zoom sessions (www.secretan.com/inspiration-cloud), and my good friend, Stephan Hein from London, UK, is offering a very special gift to us – he will present a Yoga Nidra session for us on March...