{"id":16274,"date":"2023-01-06T13:50:44","date_gmt":"2023-01-06T17:50:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/secretan.com\/staging\/?page_id=16274"},"modified":"2023-01-06T18:44:45","modified_gmt":"2023-01-06T22:44:45","slug":"values-centered-leadership-vector","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/secretan.com\/staging\/values-centered-leadership-vector\/","title":{"rendered":"Values-Centered Leadership\u00ae and the Vector"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.18.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; background_color=&#8221;#DF7400&#8243; use_background_color_gradient=&#8221;on&#8221; background_color_gradient_stops=&#8221;#df7400 0%|#ff9624 99%&#8221; background_enable_image=&#8221;off&#8221; background_size=&#8221;contain&#8221; saved_tabs=&#8221;all&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.18.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.18.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_post_title meta=&#8221;off&#8221; featured_image=&#8221;off&#8221; text_color=&#8221;light&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.18.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_orientation=&#8221;center&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][\/et_pb_post_title][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section][et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221; background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;|||&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; custom_padding__hover=&#8221;|||&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221; background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">One way of looking at our lives is to appreciate that excellence or high performance anywhere\u2014in our personal or professional lives\u2014is achieved when we do these three things exceptionally well:<\/span><\/p>\n<ol class=\"ol1\">\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s2\"><\/span><span class=\"s1\">Attain great levels of competence (<b>Mastery<\/b>),<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s2\"><\/span><span class=\"s1\">Build deep and enduring relationships (<b>Chemistry<\/b>), and<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s1\">Serve others (<b>Delivery<\/b>).<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Almost any activity in which we engage can be classified under one or more of these three headings. Try thinking of something that you do in your personal or professional life that is not comfortably contained within the one of these three descriptors: Mastery, Chemistry, or Delivery. These three are called the Primary Values.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">The definition of the <b>Primary Values<\/b> is:<\/span><\/p>\n<ol class=\"ol1\">\n<li class=\"li2\"><span class=\"s1\"><b>Mastery<\/b>: <i>Undertaking whatever you do to the highest standards of which you are capable<\/i><\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s1\"><b>Chemistry<\/b>: <i>Relating so well with others that they actively seek to associate themselves with you<\/i><\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s1\"><b>Delivery<\/b>: <i>Identifying the needs of others, and meeting them<\/i><span class=\"Apple-tab-span\"> <\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">We achieve these three Primary Values by practicing the <b>Accelerators<\/b>, which propel the Primary Values in this way: <\/span><\/p>\n<ol class=\"ol1\">\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s1\"><b>Mastery is achieved through Learning, <\/b>defined as: <i>Seeking and practicing knowledge and wisdom<\/i> <\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s1\"><b>Chemistry is achieved through Empathizing<\/b>, defined as: <i>Considering the thoughts, feelings, and perspectives of others<\/i>, and<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li1\"><span class=\"s2\"><\/span><span class=\"s1\"><b>Delivery is achieved through Listening<\/b>, defined as<b>: <\/b><i>Hearing and understanding the communications of others<\/i><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">These last three are called \u201cAccelerators,\u201d because they accelerate the Primary Value with which they are linked. For example, to achieve <i>greater <\/i>Mastery, we need to commit to <i>greater<\/i> Learning. We call this combination Values-centered Leadership<\/span><span class=\"s3\"><sup>\u00ae<\/sup><\/span><span class=\"s1\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Achieving Mastery, Chemistry, or Delivery cannot be achieved by wishful thinking alone. There are concrete actions and steps that we can each take that, when purposely applied, will lead to the enhancement and growth of these three Primary Values. To achieve greater Mastery, we must engage in new Learning. Similarly, if we wish to build greater Chemistry with people, we must first Empathize with them. And meeting the needs of others\u2014Delivery\u2014is best achieved by Listening for those needs.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">These six little words are incredibly powerful because they propel all human progress, innovation, relationships, and achievements. There is nothing in the world that we cannot accomplish if we <i>learn<\/i> something new that leads to greater <i>Mastery<\/i>, <i>empathize<\/i> with others that leads to greater <i>Chemistry<\/i> or <i>listen<\/i> to the needs of others to achieve greater <i>Delivery<\/i>.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">The Vector<\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p2\"><span class=\"s1\">It is possible, (but not essential), to assign numerical values to these questions. For example, you might ask, \u201cHow do you feel about your Mastery today?\u201d You might get an answer such as, \u201cIt feels like around a 10 for me today.\u201d You might respond, \u201cWhat about your Learning?\u201d and the response might be, \u201cIt really feels like a 6 today.\u201d Hidden in these responses is a magic formula we call \u201cthe Vector,\u201d which the dictionary defines as \u201ca quantity possessing both magnitude and direction.\u201d If you subtract the Primary Value (in this case Mastery at 10) from the Accelerator (in this case Learning at 6), the resulting number is -4. We call this a <i>negative Vector of 4<\/i> (see the figure below).<\/span><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_image src=&#8221;https:\/\/secretan.com\/staging\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Screen-Shot-2023-01-06-at-12.49.48-PM.png&#8221; title_text=&#8221;Screen Shot 2023-01-06 at 12.49.48 PM&#8221; align=&#8221;center&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][\/et_pb_image][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">The example above suggests that there is insufficient Learning to achieve greater Mastery\u2014a 6 in Learning is not sufficient to sustain a 10 in Mastery. One could go further: the current level of Mastery cannot be sustained by this lesser level of Learning because the lower power of Learning will lead to an ultimate decline in Mastery. In our different roles across all aspects of our lives\u2014at home, or at work\u2014as leader, coach, artisan, spouse, parent, friend, or anything else\u2014we can use this formula\u2014the Vector\u2014to guide us into a valuable conversation, an <b>inspiring check-in<\/b>: \u201cWhat do you think you need to learn in order to achieve greater Mastery?\u201d Notice that this is a nonjudgmental, noncritical, conversational exchange designed to inform both parties and enable them both to grow\u2014based on questions, not judgments or lectures.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Interpreting the Vector \u2013 The Inspiring Check-in<\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p2\"><span class=\"s1\">The Vector is a forward indicator. This makes it very different from most assessment tools which are usually snapshots of history, looking back over six or 12 months, for example (backward indicator). On the other hand, the Vector takes account of the current situation (a Mastery level of 10 in the above example), recognizing that the current situation is simply the result of the past, and, at the same time, acknowledges that we are equally interested in the future. Furthermore, in the example above, the negative Vector of -4 predicts a future where there are insufficient levels of Learning to propel current levels of Mastery. Since the Vector is negative, it is also signaling a future decline of Mastery. This can result in a rich opportunity for deep and constructive conversation\u2014an <b>inspiring check-in<\/b>. Since both parties are familiar with the methodology, there is no need to explain it all; there is a natural rhythm to the conversation\u2014a comfortable, <b>inspiring check-in<\/b>, which both parties understand to be completely constructive and forward-looking.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p2\"><span class=\"s1\">Welcome to the concept of an <b>inspiring check-in<\/b>\u2014a non-judgmental way of conducting empathetic, inspiring conversations that are exclusively dedicated to the needs of <b>others <\/b>and to providing you and them<b> <\/b>with more meaning, fulfilment, self-esteem, effectiveness and inspiration in your work and home life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row column_structure=&#8221;1_2,1_2&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;1_2&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"s1\">First described in \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/secretan.com\/staging\/books-dvds\/the-way-of-the-tiger\/\"><span class=\"s2\">The Way of the Tiger: Gentle Wisdom for Turbulent Times<\/span><\/a>\u201d and updated in \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/secretan.com\/staging\/thebellwethereffect\/\"><span class=\"s2\">The Bellwether Effect<\/span><\/a>\u201d, this is an <a href=\"https:\/\/secretan.com\/staging\/coaching-values-centered-leadership-vector\/\"><span class=\"s2\">exceptional coaching model<\/span><\/a>, and a valuable tool for anyone coaching, mentoring or guiding others\u2014at work, or at home and personal life. Wallet-sized Vector Cards <a href=\"https:\/\/secretan.com\/staging\/product\/vector-cards\/\"><span class=\"s2\">can be found here<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][et_pb_column type=&#8221;1_2&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_image src=&#8221;https:\/\/secretan.com\/staging\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/vcl-front.jpg&#8221; title_text=&#8221;vcl-front&#8221; align=&#8221;center&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; width=&#8221;52%&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][\/et_pb_image][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row column_structure=&#8221;1_2,1_2&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;1_2&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: center;\">Click here to take the free Vector Personal Survey<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_button button_url=&#8221;https:\/\/secretan.com\/staging\/higher-ground-leadership-members\/vector-personal-survey\/&#8221; button_text=&#8221;Personal Vector Survey&#8221; button_alignment=&#8221;center&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][\/et_pb_button][\/et_pb_column][et_pb_column type=&#8221;1_2&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: center;\"><span class=\"s1\">Try the free Vector Coaching Model with your coaching client:<\/span><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_button button_url=&#8221;https:\/\/secretan.com\/staging\/higher-ground-leadership-members\/coaching-values-centered-leadership-vector\/&#8221; button_text=&#8221;The Vector Coaching Model&#8221; button_alignment=&#8221;center&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][\/et_pb_button][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">The Shifts<\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p2\"><span class=\"s1\">The Primary Values on the back wheel provide Power and Acceleration to our lives\u2014and our organizations. But our motives can be flawed unless they are tempered by the <i>shifts<\/i> on the front wheel that provide our Direction. Most of us are familiar, to a greater or lesser degree, with the back-wheel values; we simply need to increase our practice of them. This cannot be said of the front-wheel shifts; they are qualitatively different. Most of us are not committed practitioners of the shifts on the front wheel\u2014in fact, we need to <i>shift<\/i> from an \u201cold-story\u201d approach to a \u201cNew-Story\u201d one, and therefore we call the front-wheel values \u201cshifts.\u201d They are:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul class=\"ul1\">\n<li class=\"li3\"><span class=\"s2\"><\/span><span class=\"s1\">A <i>shift <\/i>from me to YOU: focusing more on the needs of others than our own<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li3\"><span class=\"s2\"><\/span><span class=\"s1\">A <i>shift <\/i>from things to PEOPLE: valuing people more than material things<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li3\"><span class=\"s2\"><\/span><span class=\"s1\">A <i>shift <\/i>from breakthrough to KAIZEN: celebrating the importance of doing things <b>better <\/b>just as much as doing them differently<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li3\"><span class=\"s2\"><\/span><span class=\"s1\">A <i>shift <\/i>from weaknesses to STRENGTHS: building on our strengths just as often as searching for and criticizing weaknesses<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"li4\"><span class=\"s2\"><\/span><span class=\"s1\">A <i>shift <\/i>from competition and fear to LOVE: inspiring and motivating each other with love instead of fear and competition<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h4 class=\"p5\"><span class=\"s1\">The Definitions of the Shifts:<\/span><\/h4>\n<p class=\"p2\"><span class=\"s1\"><b>From me to you.<\/b> We are emerging from one of the most self-absorbed eras in human history. The personality-driven way is dangerously egocentric and counter-productive. Values-centered Leadership\u00ae is other-centered and seeks collaborative win-win combinations. It assumes that when we help others to grow, find fulfillment, and experience joy, we all win. It recognizes that a proposition that is good for me but bad for you is, in the end, bad for both of us. It pursues a concept of oneness, honoring the sacredness of others and favoring a holistic, systems approach in which the members of any team are keenly aware of their impact on all other parts of the system. The Higher Ground Leader thinks in even larger terms, because for them, <i>you <\/i>includes <i>everything <\/i>else\u2014people, the environment, and the universe. To the Higher Ground Leader, the shift from me to <i>you<\/i> assumes that a customer is more than a walking credit card, and an employee more than a means of production, and a river more than a discharge site\u2014because they are all <i>you<\/i>. <\/span><span class=\"s1\"><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p2\"><span class=\"s1\">We are all in service, meeting the needs of family, friends, employees, customers, suppliers, communities, and our world, and if we do so brilliantly, all the time, we will be rewarded with advocates\u2014dedicated and loyal colleagues, friends, family and employees who no longer dread life and work, but celebrate its rewards and have fun living and doing it. In our work lives it results in a growing crowd of customers who become our word-of-mouth marketers; and a support team of suppliers who love doing business with us and partner with us for success. More importantly, a shift from me to you offers a much-needed balance to the preoccupations flowing from our personalities, by shifting our focus from an exclusive emphasis on ego, metrics, politics, and power to honoring the sacredness of others, serving them and our planet. <\/span><span class=\"s1\"><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p2\"><span class=\"s1\"><b>From things to people<\/b>. The Bernies\u2014Madoff and Ebbers\u2014established the low point of questing for things at the expense of people. The genius of Western philosophy has been our unsurpassed ability to acquire, measure, analyze, and count materiality\u2014things. But in revering analysis and acquisition, we have forgotten that all organizations and institutions are the sums of people, not of things. In fact, they are even more than that\u2014they are the sums of the human spirits within them. It is the soul that inspires and becomes inspired, not things. Now, we must return to our true reason for our existence by shifting away from our unhealthy addiction to things to a renewed commitment to people. The &#8220;things&#8221; approach only obeys hierarchy, order, politics, metrics, procedures, policies, manuals, formal systems, and structure. The &#8220;people&#8221; approach seeks to honor the heart, respect the soul, and lift the spirits of all\u2014<i>while being effective at the same time.<\/i><\/span><span class=\"s1\"><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p2\"><span class=\"s1\"><b>From breakthrough to kaizen<\/b>. The favorite heroes of management gurus are breakthrough specialists: great inventors, entrepreneurs, promoters, and marketers. They are the hares who turn their innovative breakthroughs into personal fortunes, but we need to celebrate tortoises, too\u2014and just as passionately. As Aesop said, \u201cSlow and steady wins the race.\u201d There are two ways to grow: by innovation and breakthrough (finding a different way) and kaizen (finding a better way).<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p2\"><span class=\"s1\">The capacity to do the same thing a little bit better every day may not look like a spectacular achievement in the short run, but it is in the long run. The Japanese call this kaizen (<i>kai<\/i>: better, and <i>Zen: <\/i>good) or \u201ccontinuous improvement in personal life, home life, social life, and work life, involving everyone.\u201d But it is not simply a Japanese idea; it is an intelligent idea. It is an attitude that honors the act of micro-excellence achieved through daily personal Mastery and Learning.<\/span><span class=\"s1\"><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p2\"><span class=\"s1\">Many people (and companies) use <i>kaizen <\/i>techniques to achieve unheard-of improvements in quality and outcomes. The Sony plant in Terre Haute, Indiana, which manufactures computer parts for Sony video games is an example. It now manufactures 2,715 products per person-hour, where just one year ago, thirteen operators were required to manufacture 369 products in the same time. It produces twenty-seven million parts each month, and these efficiencies have been achieved without any layoffs. But continuous improvement (<i>kaizen)<\/i> has wider application than the workplace: it is just as important in our personal lives\u2014in our relationships, personal growth, politics, education, health and wellness, and spiritual development. To continuously improve in every aspect of our lives is to continually grow, and this is how we remain relevant and vital. At home, an example of Kaizen might be this very important question, \u201cHow might I love you more?\u201d<\/span><span class=\"s1\"><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p2\"><span class=\"s1\"><b>From weaknesses to strengths<\/b>. Researchers claim that during an average business meeting, each idea introduced is met with nine criticisms. According to Dr. Marilyn L. Kourilsky, former dean for teacher education at UCLA\u2019s Graduate School of Education, 97 percent of kindergarten children in the United States think creatively, only 3 percent form their thoughts in a conforming, structured manner. By the time they complete high school, the balance has begun to shift\u201446 percent think creatively, while a more rigid, structured style is preferred by 54 percent. The process of losing our individuality, passion, and creativity is completed in the workplace: by the time we are 30, a mere 3 percent enjoy the freedom of practicing holistic, original thought processes, while 97 percent of us subject all our thinking to a structure which screens for orthodoxy, social correctness, and conflict avoidance\u2014a process for which Irving Janis coined the term \u201cgroupthink.\u201d In other words, we begin our lives with a learning, open, and curious attitude, but eventually we fall under a spell of creative and spiritual impotence\u2014the journey from learners to knowers. We do not start out thinking like &#8220;old-story&#8221; leaders\u2014it is something that we acquire. By criticizing, judging, and finding fault with the ideas of others, and with our own self-judgement, we suck the self-esteem from the souls of others as well as ourselves and therefore our families and organizations. We pounce on our flaws, missed targets, projects that are delayed, or budget overruns, and fail to celebrate our strengths or study and perfect our successes. By mistakenly placing our faith in the Aristotelian notion that by attacking ideas we will strengthen them, we have perfected the skills of the ego and abandoned the gifts of the soul. But imagine if every person and every organization devoted as much passion and time to building on their strengths, to celebrating what is working <i>more <\/i>than criticizing and judging what is not\u2014our souls would begin healing until we became extraordinary and inspired.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p2\"><span class=\"s1\">Psychologist James Loehr, who has helped to train, among others, tennis great Martina Navratilova, has studied what the best tennis players do when they take a 20-second break between points during a match. Loehr discovered that mediocre players use that time to react to the previous point\u2014scolding themselves after a missed point, for example. The best players, Loehr found, spend the time preparing for the next point, relaxing, energizing themselves, planning their strategy, and tuning their minds.<\/span><span class=\"s1\"><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p2\"><span class=\"s1\"><b>From Competition, Hostility, and Fear to Love<\/b>. Much of our life is laced with metaphors of war (chocolate cake to die for; the war on drugs). Many businesses dedicate enormous amounts of people-power, time, and energy to the objective of defeating opponents, crushing competitors, and creating losers. Modern leadership language is laced with metaphors of war and aggression, and team members often feel like faux warriors on a quest to conquer competitors in the battle for market share. Of course, none of this is inspiring. It is frightening. While the social self (the ego) may become engaged with these metaphors, the essential self (the soul) recoils. War is anathema to the soul. Life is more than an endless competition in which we are all gladiators at some level, seeking to vanquish our opponents, who, the social self conveniently forgets, are sitting at the next desk or across the breakfast table, or riding home with us on the train.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p2\"><span class=\"s1\">Life is not a battleground\u2014it is a playground. War or the fear of losing does not inspire people. We would rather have chocolate cake to dream for than to die for. Extraordinary accomplishments or performances are inspired and romanced from people, not beaten out of them. If we love what we do (Mastery), love the people with whom we do it (Chemistry), and love the reason for doing it (Delivery), would we still call it work? People are inspired to do what they do well by the <i>love<\/i> they feel for what they do (Mastery), the people they do it with (Chemistry), and their reasons for doing it (Delivery).<\/span><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.19.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Summary<\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p2\"><span class=\"s1\">The front-wheel shifts, then, are modifiers for the Primary Values and Accelerators on the back wheel. 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