I am far from an expert on quantum mechanics, but I know a little bit – just enough to help me form a theory! There are three steps to my theory, which I call “Secretan’s Law of Relationships” – let’s see if it resonates with you?
- At the sub-atomic level, life is either a particle or a wave. One of the most puzzling paradoxes of quantum mechanics is the phenomenon known as the “Uncertainty Principle” also known as “Heisenberg’s Uncertainty Principle, in which the subject being observed is changed by the act of the observer studying it. A parallel of this in classical mechanics is what happens when we check the pressure of an automobile tire – it’s nearly impossible to do this without letting out some of the air, thus changing the pressure. So the first principle in my theory is that the observer changes the subject being observed through the act of observing – it can be a wave or a particle, can change at any time, and can be changed through the simple act of being observed.
2. The second principle in my theory is quite straightforward – particles and waves make up quarks and leptons, and these in turn make up protons and neutrons and electrons. These are what are contained in atoms. Two or more atoms make up a molecule. Several molecules make up cells, and a collection of cells results in tissues. Tissues create the organs in our bodies and these tissues and organs are what makes physical humans. This is demonstrated in the chart on the left.
3. The final part of my theory is that how we experience another human depends on how we observe them. If we observe them as being ugly, rude, cynical, aggressive, spiteful, or untruthful – this is how they will be. If we see them as loving, sacred, beautiful, authentic, inspiring, and magnificent – then this is how they will be. People are simply a vast collection of subatomic particles or waves and these can be changed from particles to waves and back again simply through the act of observing.
Therefore, how people appear to us depends just as much on us, the observer, as it does on them, the observed. Secretan’s Law of Relationships therefore states that, “We see what we expect in others.” And there is a corollary: “Others become how we see them”.
As much as I work at seeing what I expect in others, i.e. loving kindness, there are some who continue to exhibit behavior that is inconsistent with what I want to see in them. It is as though the other desires to portray a self that is the opposite of what I want to see in them. I want to see positive in negative but negative continues to be negative.
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Thanks for “Secretan’s Law of Relationships”.
I especially liked your analogy of the process of checking tire pressure regarding understanding the phenomenon of “Heisenberg’s Uncertainty Principle”.
I loved your photo-graphic depicting bio-chem-physical elements of a person. It’s helpful in bringing seemingly disparate things together.
Certainly the whole is greater than the parts, in terms of individual “holons” and everything is interrelated and interdependent. Nothing exists outside of relationship.
It’s true that we don’t see things the way they are; we see things the way we are, … and how we are influences how others are … in terms of perceptions and more.
Thank you Lance for your interesting, colorful, creative, evocative and generative blog!
Dr. Secretan, I appreciate this viewpoint, applying the Quantum Principle to Relationships. For the last 4 years I’ve been in love with this Quantum Principle opined by thought-leaders like Drs. Joe Dispenza and Bruce Lipton. I have uncertainty relative to the viewpoint that we are all one(unified – that the separation between ‘me’ and ‘you’ is an illusion) and that we are separate beings, capable of influencing each other’s identity/behaviour via ‘observational bias’. I would appreciate your thoughts on how separate/unified we are.
This is very true and something I have researched and frankly struggled with. It is something we all need to “observe” in every moment and “always be humble and kind” as I listened to today. There is love in all of us if we listen. And see it.
I completely agree. This is awesome.